It’s hard to believe that half the academic year has passed but I am still not feeling academic. I thought this month I would share some of the issues that we have been throwing around at Moore College and a couple of other things on my mind that I hope you might be interested in.
Marriage and Singleness
Ethics classes this semester has seen some really great discussions on Marriage and Singleness. As someone who has been married for 23 years, I am learning a great deal about what the Bible has to say about this subject and perhaps I may be biased and still don’t quite understand singleness in relation to church.
Of particular interest to me was that many in today’s world, both Christian and non-Christian, hold marriage up as the ultimate in human relationships and look at those who are single are just not up to where they could be. I was shocked to think that there are many who have had the ‘don’t worry you’ll find a nice boy or girl soon’ comment from someone who thought they were being quite caring. Or their sexuality has been questioned because they were not yet married.
Unfortunately the church has been at fault in these areas at times. Even solid Christian marriages can fall into a big trap. We can easily make marriage and\or family into an idol. We exalt our family and exclude not just other singles but other families. We become exclusive and are an idol unto ourselves. Rather, the purpose of marriage and family is to be inclusive and the serve god together.
For those who aren’t at college and would like a good resource, I suggest a book by Christopher Ash ‘Sex in the service of God’.
What if church had to change?
There was a really interesting small piece in the July edition of ‘The Briefing’ (Mathias Media, Page 6). Tony Payne presented the following scenario: 'What would happen if due to the swine flu pandemic, all public meetings we banned for at least 12 months, what would you do?' Imagine the time that would be ‘freed up’ for the pastor. He proposed that the pastor would start to meet with key men in groups of 2 or 3 and train them intensely. Then repeat the process but also have the first group work with another 2 or 3 men. This training would involve how to read the bible with others and their children. Support would be through email and phone as best as possible. There would be a lot of one to one meetings and personal contact.
There would be no rosters to prepare, no sermon prep, no weekly news to print, no mens' breakfast or outreach events. While extremely hypothetical, he poses the great question, ‘If the ban was lifted, would you go back to the old way?’
It does beg the question whether we get our ‘bang for our buck’ through our Sunday services. Is the amount of work they we put in to a church service actually paying dividends? Often we can’t tell, sometime we can, but it is often worthwhile to sit back and think that maybe we have become so entrenched on what we think church is and how it must work, that we often miss the point. I'd be keen to hear any thoughts on what you'd do. Something to think about anyway.
Persecution
The 1st week of this sememster saw Mission week at college. Through this week, each chapel service highlighted the plight of the ‘Persecuted Church’ throughout the world. This led to some discussion in our small group the next week. Some of the things we discussed were ‘if we are Christians, why aren’t we being persecuted like these people, and is it because we have got it all wrong?
Helpfully, we found that persecution will look different in different places.
We questioned that many times persecution does not come because Christians in the west often aren’t any different to those who aren’t Christians.
What causes the persecution – is it cultural, or a minority problem not just a Christian issue, or is the persecution caused by foolishness (outdoor preaching in a country where this is forbidden).
What about this - am I worthy of persecution?
There is no doubt that in many churches there is a high focus on the work of mission over the world. Conversely, there are many who show little interest in mission outside their ‘patch’. One of the problems I see is that lots of churches have information tables with advertising featuring 20 different mission organisations. No one ever seems to take any of the newsletters. It’s the old ‘too many so I’ll choose none’ syndrome. Why don’t we make a concerted effort to just feature 1 or 2 different organisations or even look at one persecuted country a month? What have you got to lose? Let’s look out beyond to those who need our prayer. Always interested to find out what is working or not working where you are.
Next time, I'm planning to write a piece on sportsman behaving badly and what should our response be
Monday, August 10, 2009
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Hi Gary, Glad to hear you're being stimulated (as it is meant to do) whilst at College! Yes, persecution... I think if we're really being 'salted Christians' in our community we WILL find persecution. Whether it be from the friends we used to hang about with (now they find our viewpoints weird or so 'totally off the mark') moving away from us, or our voiced 'opinions' on community/federal affairs not 'being in sync' with common perceptions for instance of how 'lenient' laws should become etc and we are labelled 'opinionated' (a definite no-no in the post-modernist society) - so yes, I find we make our mark at the risk of alienation (of the world and friends) but I find it is important to make that mark anyway!
ReplyDeletethanks garry -- all thought provoking --every topic needs some thinking about --next time you are to write about sportsmen behaving badly? --do you have the time and space for that ??--meg did an assignment on it if you need some help from a 15 year old girl
ReplyDeleteHi Garry - your comments on marriage and singleness got me thinking. You point out that many hold marriage up as the ultimate relationship and tend to look down on singleness. I for one hold marriage up high because the Bible tells me that it is to be a reflection of the relationship between God and his people. And I guess I do think of singleness as less than ideal for the average person. BUT, I know that God calls some to singleness (something requiring a spiritual gift of celibacy, so it's neither normal nor easy) and he does that equally for his glory. It's a careless mistake for marrieds to say or do anything to a single which can come across as a put-down.
ReplyDeleteYou're right in saying that we can make an idol out of our marriages, just like we have that tendency with everything (money, sport, career etc). And we shouldn't be exclusive in the sense that we shun society and cut ourselves off. I believe God has ministry potential for each couple that they cannot do as individuals. One example I can think of is to share some family time with singles who are often otherwise alone.
But that's not to say we should have an "open relationship" in the 60's free love sense, where anything goes. My job as a husband is to guard and protect my wife and our relationship, and sometimes that will mean appearing "closed".
By the way, I happened to read an interesting article over at Crosswalk that talks about healing broken marriages. Thought you readers might be interested: www.crosswalk.com/marriage/drdavid/11607167/
Great post Garry. Keep 'em coming. - Steve
Hi Garry!
ReplyDeleteI like your post, especially the bit about changing ministry around a bit if the swine flu epidemic gets worse. I think training small groups of people is incredibly beneficial, and I think there should be more of it going on in our churches! I've had the blessing of being trained at Con Christian group, and have had some very faithful men and women trained me up in the gospel and am so thankful for their input in my life. I know that this kind of 'training' is widespread in our uni communities - why not in church culture as well? All it takes is one Christian being trained by an older, more mature Christian. It's something everyone can do if they have the bible in one hand and the Holy Spirit in their hearts!
Looking forward to the sermon tonight!